Domestic Abuse does not only happen to adults – Young people can find advice @ http://thisisabuse.direct.gov.uk/
If you are worried about yourself or anyone else who you think may be at risk please contact:
Milton Keynes Multi Agency Safeguarding Hub – MASH
Thames Valley Police
Emergency – 999
Non-Emergency – 101
MK ACT 0344 375 4307
Find some real stories by young people here http://thisisabuse.direct.gov.uk/worried-about-abuse/view/real-stories
Key Facts for young people about Healthy Relationships (Taken from www.thisisabuse.com) can be found below:
- You can’t ‘guess’ or assume that another person wants sex just because you do. If you have sex with someone without checking for consent you are putting yourself at risk of being charged for rape. That’s why it’s so important that you always check the other person is really up for it before going ahead. The law says that only a male can commit rape because the definition by law is that rape is committed with a penis. (Rape victims can be male or female).
- If a girl is drunk, she can’t give consent – that’s the law. It means even if she says yes in the moment, the boy is still putting himself at risk of committing a rape.
- If the boy is drunk, it would make no difference in the eyes of the law – if there are any signs of a girl not wanting to have sex, it could be rape.
- It’s actually classified as rape if she’s saying no in any way at all. She might not say ‘no’ but if she’s indicating it in other ways, it’s the same thing in the eyes of the law.
Make sure you know about the consequences…
- The consequences can be huge. It is still rape even if violence is not used, and the person committing it could go to prison, get a criminal record and be put on the sex offenders register. This will have a serious and huge impact on the future, such as making it hard to get a job.
- It’s not enough to say you weren’t thinking straight – don’t do something you could end up regretting. If you go ahead without checking, saying ‘I wasn’t thinking’ or ‘I forgot to ask’ won’t get you off the hook.
Everyone has a choice in wanting to have sex…
- So what is consent? Everyone has a choice in wanting to have sex, and consent is a positive decision; it’s saying that you’ve decided you really want to have sex, each and every time.
- There are a million reasons why someone might not feel like having sex, e.g. a girl might be on her period, no condoms available, a person might have other things on their mind and not feel like it.
- It’s totally normal to kiss and do other stuff but not want to have full sex.
- Remember, everyone has their own limits – it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks about that.